The three phases a sensitive person goes through
If you, as a sensitive person, wasn't supported in your sensitivity growing up there are three phases, or portals, that you will move through as you begin to seek yourself as an adult.
The unsupported sensitive or seeker phase
This is when you experience your sensitivity as a weakness.
Or maybe you don’t even want to admit that you’re sensitive because you’ve been convinced that sensitivity is bad in some way.
This is when you get caught up in the relentless self-improvement game that is fueled by a sense of not being enough.
Your energy and your resources are used to try to manage what feels like an unsustainable life.
You don't really know what you need or what you desire and often feel either stuck or ungrounded.
This is when you tend to want to make external changes in the hopes that it will make you feel better.
We could also call this the never enough phase.
It feels like you are never enough, and like there is never enough time or energy.
Life feels draining.The supported sensitive or finder phase
This is when you’ve realized that you are sensitive AND that sensitivity can be a resource that you can use, not something to be managed.
You’re beginning to get in touch with your own needs and desires.
You know, at leaste most of the time, how to meet those needs and how to support yourself or ask for support.
You're beginning to know what you want and you’re beginning to take up more space.
You are developing a sense of self, separate from other people, a sense of autonomy.
And through that begin to have deeper and more meaningful relationships.
This is the phase of I am, and I am enough.
A phase of deeper self-awareness and a felt sense of yourself and your needs and your desires.The empowered sensitive or explorer phase
This is when you step into your power as a curious life explorer.
You're in touch with both your biological instincts and your higher intuition.
You begin to feel comfortable being you, even when you're not sure of yourself.
You feel comfortable expressing yourself, comfortable even with the discomfort that can arise when you try new things or explore new arenas or discover unexplored territory in yourself.
You can sense and communicate your boundaries, and experience a sense of belonging in the world - that you have a place here.
You not only know what you desire, you also move towards what you desire.
Not in goal oriented way, but rather you explore the pathways that your desires open up for you.
You know how to give yourself time for integration and rest, how to return to that sense of support when you've explored new territory.
Which phase do you find yourself in right now?
Let me know in the comments below if this resonates with you or share any questions that might emerge!
These portals, or phases, are not static places.
We don't move through one phase and then never return to it again.
I have found that it's continuous spiral 🌀
As you explore more of yourself and more of life you will discover parts of yourself that needs more support, or that feel unsupported.
Every time you move through these phases you will become more skilled at noticing where you are and how to meet yourself there.
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